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BrollyTheLegendary
10/09/2006, 06:17 PM
I just thought I'd share a thought or two with you guys. Here's what has been happening in the family:

So I have this nine year old cousin. He doesn't have a father. His mom works hard as hell to pay rent, put food on the table, pay the bills, and hell, even have enough for special events such as Christmas. He is the most ungrateful stubborn kid I have ever met. It's like, theres something about him that just makes him very unlikeable.

Last week my mom recieved a call from the school asking if my father was at home. The school had been trying to reach my aunt, but they couldn't, so they called us. My mom asked what was going on, and this is what the lady said:

" I am calling about (Name kept undisclosed). I have had enough. (Name kept undisclosed) is the most untolerable, unbehaved student I have ever taught. He won't listen to me, he's a danger to the other students. He refuses to remain quiet and behaves VERY badly. This is not the first time I've had to call the mother, and that's why it's so urgent that I speak to her. If I don't see a change in (Student) he will get suspended or transfered into another classroom."

How embarassing don't you think? He's nine years old , almost 10 for god's sake, and he behaves worse than my 5 year old brother. Playing the blame game is never good, but it's the only explanation. I blame the mother. When my father used to babysit him, he disciplined him, helped him with the homework, even taught him a thing or two. And when he misbehaved, he was punished. After about two months with us, change was visible a mile away. Hell, he was even starting to pick up his grades.

THen what happened? My aunt got mad, she said my father had no right to yell or punish him. He was not the father.

That really hurt. We were only trying to help her son become a better boy, but in a sense, she's right. My father is my father, not his. He returned to being his old self again. Getting bad grades (he went to summer school this year), getting calls at home, and now this.

And what's worse, is that she ALWAYS defends him. Even when she knows shes wrong. That sends a VERY bad message. He thinks he can get away with anything, and his mom will back him up. That's EXACTLY why he does the things he does.

So now my aunt is supposed to go talk to the teacher tomorrow. He's only in...what? *thinks* 3rd grade, and he's already getting suspension threats. What a shame. If he even graduates out of elementary school, I'll eat my hat.

garsh0p
10/09/2006, 06:22 PM
yeah, i believe kids need to be punished when they do something wrong or else they won't know any better.

i come from an chinese family, and my mom hit with me everything possible when i did something wrong. am i a traumatized child because of that? no. i thank her for steering me in the right direction. the problem is if your parents still beat you like that when you're like a teenager.

Shellshock929
10/09/2006, 06:22 PM
Wow, that's horribble. See if there is any way you or your parents can do anything about it. This cannot continue.

BrollyTheLegendary
10/09/2006, 06:30 PM
Like I said, what she did really hurt. She said some side things aside from that like "I don't need help from anybody".

It was pretty nasty.

Just to give you an example of how bad he is:

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In the summer I was walking back home from the store (they lived in the first floor of the apartment, we lived in the second) and they were going out somewhere. I say hi and then I witness something VERY disturbing. Wherever they were going, SHE was driving there, and so was he, but he was going to get there by bike. :eek: Not only that then I hear "Hey! Get me my walkman! I was to listen to music while I ride my bike!" - (Name kept undisclosed)

"No, lets go." My aunt

"Hurry up and get me my walkman! Now! It's in the glove compartment!" - (NKU)

She gets out of the car and gives it to him.

"Now lets go! Hurry!" - (NKU)

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And that is why I blame it on the mother.

Shellshock929
10/09/2006, 06:42 PM
If this keeps up, call the police. See if they can do anything about it.

Marril
10/09/2006, 06:46 PM
The problem nowadays is that people don't ever discipline their kids. There's such a big anti-discipline mindset that the very thought of your kid yelling at you for taking away some privelege or another is so cringe-inducing that nobody ever does anything.

"Well, Timmy's mom lets him do this..." Yeah, suck it up kid, you're not Timmy and I'm not his mom. Pointless screaming? Shut up kid, parental authority means I can do this. Don't like it, go get a job and move out.

There really should be some kind of parenting license. You need a license to do anything from driving to fishing to hunting to whatever else, but all you need to have a kid is to get to the age where your reproductive system works. It's tiring seeing people raising kids completely wrong because they flat-up suck at it.

Lakak
10/09/2006, 07:08 PM
Man, that is just awful behavior.The reason I'm not like that, is because I'm home schooled and my mom has tought me lessons in life that I need so I'm not like that.

Metagross_Ex
10/09/2006, 08:56 PM
He's 10 and in the 3rd grade? Dang, I was in 5th grade when I was 10.

Ancient Pokemon Trainer
10/10/2006, 07:18 AM
I'm SUCH a good son. :D

moza
10/10/2006, 09:08 AM
I ROCK as a son, kewl:cool:

Charizardian
10/10/2006, 05:28 PM
Has he been introduced to the game of football? That may help, becuase of all the discipline football teaches you, while still being able to beat the schnozzola out of people. Of course, he could just get worse. But hey, it keeps the big boys in my school distratcted from wimpy kids and slightly gives their grades a boost.

Also, it could just be a phase. If it is, just pray to god he gets over it, and hope he doesn't relapse.

GinoLombardi21
10/10/2006, 05:59 PM
The spankings unleased!:lol:

BrollyTheLegendary
10/10/2006, 06:54 PM
A phase?!

Excuse my language but...HELL NO THIS ISN'T A PHASE. He's been like that since he was in diapers.

SPANKINGS?!

HELL NO!

I say she should unretire good old mother belt and whip that boy.

Absoltrainer
10/10/2006, 06:55 PM
Boot camp

Marril
10/10/2006, 07:33 PM
Also, it could just be a phase. If it is, just pray to god he gets over it, and hope he doesn't relapse.

One of the single most stupid mindsets I've ever seen is writing off behaviour as "it's just a phase."

Guess what? If you don't correct a kid's behaviour right as it gets bad, the "phase" will last a lifetime.

I say she should unretire good old mother belt and whip that boy.

The strap is like, "child abuse" now. I really don't know why. Pain is one of the few things no kid can ignore.

Prime
10/10/2006, 08:13 PM
I see more and more kids like this now-a-days.

Absoltrainer
10/10/2006, 08:44 PM
Shave his head...it's not child abuse the parent is just choosing a hairstyle for their child.

Buy clothes he hates. It's not abuse just different tastes in clothes

take away T.V and video game privilages




Punishement that does not go into abuse

BrollyTheLegendary
10/11/2006, 02:34 PM
One of the single most stupid mindsets I've ever seen is writing off behaviour as "it's just a phase."

Guess what? If you don't correct a kid's behaviour right as it gets bad, the "phase" will last a lifetime.


Darn skippy!

Like my mom said:

If a tree starts growing crooked, you better fix it right away, because when the tree is old, getting it to be straight is impossible.

Absol Trainer, good suggestion, but his hair is pretty short, he wont mind shaved. The other ones work, but like I said, he'll get away with it. HIs mom isn't tough enough.

Boot camp, that just might work, but won't it cost money?

moza
10/11/2006, 02:36 PM
Send him to Brat Camp. I saw this show once, and they took bratty teens to boot camp. It was funny:lol:

Mabey get Nanny 911 or something like that, that might help too.

sceptilerancher
10/11/2006, 04:52 PM
omg dont send him to any brat/boot camp
kids get killed in those way to much =P