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Topic: How does your other half feel about pokemon?
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Meganium45
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posted February 20, 2003 03:25 PM
You know. This is going to be the lonely hearts club.
I know Pokemon causes tension in my house. I love taking my boys every Wednesday to DK with the neighbor kid to play some intense PKMN. We also like going to tourneys - and for the out of towners, she likes travelling with us. The Chicago CSC was a blast in that she got to see what the "addiction" is about, and meet all of the other Pokemon widows.
The main lesson that we all need to grab is to keep things in perspective. I am going to be with my wife forever. Period. Pokemon is going to be a part of my life for as long as it is. Period. I hope that it is a long time, but I am not banking on teaching my 22 month old how to play at this time. Not until he is at least 4.
Pokemon taught my son to read at 4 years old. He had to to keep up with his big brother in the game. Now, debatably, he is a better player at age 6 then his brother. He just won his SBZ, and continues to improve. Pokemon allows my son to be elite in his own way, even though he is the little brother. Pokemon teaches sportsmanship. Pokemon teaches that things are not always fair (just ask the magcargo player that I beat with a Skiploom at the SBZ).
It is too easy to get caught up in always playing the same thing. So cool to see a Wigglytuff deck using boost energy! The game is ever changing, and always challenging us to think outside the box, making our Pokemon widows even more like Pokemon widows.
We now have a rule, that we do not open packs unless we draft them. Mom likes to draft, and it keeps her going. If I can only get her to a tourney, then she will turn to the dark side!
Allright! See you on the boards! Meganium 45
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CHARIZARDMASTERTRAINER
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posted February 20, 2003 03:32 PM
Well BB,
Some people don't understand what the game is all about and so they just think it is a waste of our time, but it isn't to us. This game is something that interests' us and we should be free to explore our interests. So the people that aren't interested in the game shouldn't think that what we are doing is a waste of time, because sometimes we think what they are doing is the same thing, a waste of time.
So, the situation with your wife is something that you should think about. Maybe you should try spending a little less time playing the game and more with her that way she won't complain that you are spending less time around the house and with her. I can't really think of anything else, hope it helps.
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SteveP
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posted February 20, 2003 04:05 PM
hey Meganium45, you can remove that comment from your sig now.
Meganium hinted at an excellent idea. For the next big Challenges and Worlds, we need to organized a Pokemon widow's / widower's club with Dr Phil as the moderator. ![[Big Grin]](../tcg/biggrin.gif)
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RULEMASTER
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posted February 20, 2003 08:57 PM
We all need to know "perspective." Thats the key word here. What does Pokemon mean to you, and what does your wife/girlfriend mean to you?
I have a beautiful girlfriend that I am very close to. We have been in a serious relationship for over 2 years now. About a year ago, everything came crashing down on us, and we have slowly been rebuilding it ever since. It has been a rollercoaster ride lately, and Pokemon has really helped me escape the ups and downs, if only for a few hours on Wednesday nights. I think sometimes my opponents can tell if it has been going good or bad lately by the way I play. I sometimes sacrifice giving her attention for Pokemon, and vice-versa. I make sure to keep it even.
The main point here is that no matter how much you'd rather play Pokemon than spend time with your woman, find a way and do it. You will always thank yourself in the end, and feel good about it. I'm no expert, but I have been dealing with this for a long time, and I am glad somebody posted about it. I would like to here back from anyone else in similar situations, if they are trying to change something or do something differently to make things work. Thanks everyone!
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Freddy K
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posted February 20, 2003 11:09 PM
My wife played in two STSQs and our baby's known online as 'Cleffa'.
Winning a trip to San Diego and taking her with me did wonders for our relationship. Mind you, not sure how flying to 'Worlds' one week after Baby Cleffa was born helped... will let you know ![[Embarrassed]](../tcg/redface.gif)
Headache, must be a Psyduck around somewhere...
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ilc
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posted February 21, 2003 04:05 PM
Well my "possibly-would-of-been" girlfriend(known each other for a year though), extremely hated pokemon and was not willing to go out with me as long as I played that game(blah the first time we were supposed to go out she forgot about our date ![[Mad]](../tcg/mad.gif) ). I don't spend huge amounts of time playing the game so there would of been no time taken away from us... but I know many girls who don't mind that I play Pokemon and I figured that if she can't accept that fact, she can't possibly like me that much -_-.
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Gym Leader Blaine
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posted February 21, 2003 04:36 PM
Well just to update my post from yesturday. I was openning some packs of Aquapolis last night, and she was going through the cards and started to read them. She really liked what she saw, and lets just say some of the cards were taken to put into decks. We were up till 2am working on stuff. AT work today she called said she got her new deck ready to go, so it looks like we are going to start to play test decks again. Which is a ton of fun. ![[Bounce]](../tcg/graemlins/jump.gif) I will say it is a blast to have someone to play test decks with, and it being my wife makes it more fun. ![[cloud9]](../tcg/graemlins/cloud9.gif)
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CPUSrchDiscarding2forOak
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posted February 26, 2003 11:49 AM
I KNOW this is off topic...but I just HAD to reply to this.
Meganium45 -- Boost energy in Wigglytuff, original? I've been looking forward to that archetypical bonus ever since I heard that Boost would exist. Got 3 in my deck the minute I had them.
It's like...every set changes my Unlimited deck a tiny bit, so it seems...Tyrogue...Energy Stadium...Copycat...Boost...Skyridge will probably have one or two broken Trainers I can muscle into it ![[Razz]](../tcg/tongue.gif)
As for our relationship (to keep this on topic)...
We've made plans to meet for the first time. Mid-July. Bus fares, taxi fares, etc. are all being decided, and soon to be finalized.
I chose, a few years ago, to restrict my search for a mate only to people that liked Pokemon. Apparently, it looks like it's going to work out. I knew Mewtwo wouldn't steer me wrong.
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What, like the pro-archetype attitude is supposed to be restricted to THIS company, and THIS TCG?
All card games run on archetypes. Magic is 90% archetypes. YGO is 90% archetypes. Pokemon was, for the most part, all archetypes before and during MF2. Pokemon will be archetype-based during MF3. Pokemon will be archetype based when it is under Nintendo.
Viva la unoriginality!
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RaNd0m
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posted February 27, 2003 05:04 PM
My current girlfriend knows I play, but we don't talk about it or anything. She accepts it because she knows it's something I enjoy, so it's fine.
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bulbasnore
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posted February 27, 2003 06:13 PM
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Originally posted by ilc:
but I know many girls who don't mind that I play Pokemon and I figured that if she can't accept that fact, she can't possibly like me that much -_-.
~ilc
You are so right, dude. If more people learned your wisdom, there'd be less sadness in the world of romance.
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ProfessorRenee
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posted March 03, 2003 11:46 AM
Okay, I know this is kinda late, but two weekends ago, my son and I taught my brother (34) to play pokemon, and as a gift for his birthday gave him some starter decks and promos a such..... beleive it or not, my HUSBAND, who really hates when my son and I jabber on and on about pokemon, told us to show him how to play..... (just for the record, he did drive us from Orlando to Atlanta to play in a qualifier....thats a 7 hr trip each way)
Well, my brother joined the league saturday, and my Hubby, my darling, challenged me to a couple battles yesterday!
Just had to share because I enjoy pokemon so much with my son and his friends, it will be nice to share with my hubby too!
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ProfessorRenee
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posted March 03, 2003 12:02 PM
Please delete this
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cattdreams
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posted March 11, 2003 01:22 AM
there are alot of things I could say about understanding and so forth being answers, but if dont get that yet, then me being the 6th person to tell you so isn't really going to help either.
so forgoing the whole understanding, moderation, compramise(sp?), etc, speach. (which are the main things you should work on) lets get to viable solutions.
since it seems that you take your kids to play, but dont seem to play in the leages or turnys yourself (being a student), why don't you pull up a spare table with your wife while your kids are playing and have a nice cup o coffee and talk about stuff? you'll be there for all the action, you can still take part in cheering your kids on, but you can spend the time talking and interacting with your wife while you let your kids play on their own.
The league that my wife and I take our daughter to is in a mall. so quite often, we do just as I had mentioned above. plus we take turns taking breaks, (she goes shopping for awhile while I watch the kid, and then it's my turn). but in general it has been a real nice time for us two to talk and be together while the kid does something fun. think of it like you would sitting in the bleachers cheering your kids on while they play a game of softball.
another thing that may help your wife gain a bit more insterest in the game is perhaps building a new interest that is similar but you can both start out as equals. Sometimes it's hard to see all the nuances of a game and really enjoy it when you are playing against someone else who is well versed in that perticular game.
An example of this is playing something like magic together. you'd both be starting out fresh, and can learn to play together. after awhile, assuming that it's fun, it may be easier for her to draw similarities between magic and pokemon, inturn letting her appreciate it more and understand your facination with it.
If that's too much for her to try, then perhaps just a classic board game or the like(small steps still get people places), backgammon, gin, etc. open games up to be social events where you can sit and talk about everything like they should be instead of a seminar on your fetishes.
one last thing, someone mentioned brushing her hair while you talk with her. I have to add to that... DO IT! learn to work a brush, then brush her hair and chat.
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Axe1234
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posted March 11, 2003 06:40 PM
What i have found to work best is just to tell the person that you play pokemon before you evan start going out with her. If she can't accept it Then ask your self "Do I really want to be with a person that won't accept me for who i really am?"
If she dosn't accept you then oh well. She not worth it and dosn't really like you.
I'm actully trying to get my girlfriend to play the game. Try it it may help your relationship. I know its started to help ours.
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CPUSrchDiscarding2forOak
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posted March 11, 2003 07:18 PM
Axe said it best. To put it more bluntly, if they don't at least tolerate you playing Pokemon, they can go *censors come in*
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What, like the pro-archetype attitude is supposed to be restricted to THIS company, and THIS TCG?
All card games run on archetypes. Magic is 90% archetypes. YGO is 90% archetypes. Pokemon was, for the most part, all archetypes before and during MF2. Pokemon will be archetype-based during MF3. Pokemon will be archetype based when it is under Nintendo.
Viva la unoriginality!
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SD_PokeMom
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posted March 11, 2003 07:28 PM
*coughs* ![[Roll Eyes]](../tcg/rolleyes.gif)
'scuse me, but I've said this before and I'll say it again: there is a big, BIG difference between the "married-with-children" situations being posted here and "dumping-your-girlfriend/boyfriend-because-they-don't-like-the-game": the former is a lot more serious and has much more at stake than the latter, and "dumping" what is supposed to be one's lifetime partner and the other parent of one's children is HARDLY a "solution" to the problem! ![[NoNoNo]](../tcg/graemlins/nonono.gif)
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Joshman
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posted March 11, 2003 07:41 PM
I'm not as "serious" into Pokemon as I was, so it doesn't get in the way of my relationships. In any case, most of the women that I have associated with were either into Pokemon (not neccessarily the card game) or anime, so it was never an issue. I make sure that none of my hobbies interfere with anyone I am having a reltionship with.
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babayaga
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posted March 12, 2003 12:52 PM
My Mr. used to be a little resentful of League time, especially when we were going on Saturday and Sunday mornings, and I was running Harry Potter on Saturdays as well. It really impacted our being able to do things as a family.
Now we just have 2 hours of League on Saturday mornings and I take all three kids so he gets some quiet house time every week. It works well for us.
He likes to play occasionally, and I'll pull out one of my run-of-the-mill decks so that I don't have to dumb down my playing. It makes it fun when I can bring down his Onix with a Weedle. And it's really fun to have close games.
He's finally stopped asking me what I want for presents: he just picks up cards instead! About time!
I'd highly recommend some reading on relationships. The Dance of Connection by Harriet Lerner is good. You can gain so much by understanding how relationships work. Take it from me: I have ADHD/Asperger's and my Mr. has OCD. We have tons of conflict in our communication styles! We rely on our knowledge of the dynamics of relationships to keep us sane and together.
Best wishes to everyone struggling with the 2 or more loves of their lives.
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Pokidad
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posted March 12, 2003 07:08 PM
Well, this is an old topic which I posted to a long, long, time ago. Things changes over time but the conflict is still there.
The "Boys and I" would spend most of our free time playing the game, all together. It was a real pain in the Weddle that soccer and other activities conflicted with our playing. My wife thought we were all nuts to be wasting our time and our money on this game.
Then came the first ECSTS 2000. I remember us talking about me taking the boys to the event. I remember her saying "your wasting our money and your time over a game." Well, I told her it might be the last time and why miss out on an opportunity. I also told her, if anyone can win this event in their age group, it would be Jonathan.
Well, most of you know this story. Jonathan won the 10 and under that year, playing against some and still are greatest European players. My wife was impressed and happy for Jonathan but still not convience.
Then, we had ECSTS 2001 in June. Jonathan won again. Eric and Tim came very close in placing in the top 8. She still felt we spent way too much time playing this game as well as our money.
Finally, WotC gave trips to play in the WCSTS 2001. Off we went to Challenge events and won two trips. We had a great time in San Diego, meeting all our friends. There all three boys did very well, Eric taking 1st, Tim placing second and Jonathan taking 2 and 3rd places. Still, my wife felt we still spent too much time playing the game but partial paid vacation was an added benefit.
Then came "2002Worlds." The boys again won trips to this event. We planned a vacation around the event and visit the beautiful state of Washington. The boys did ok, none of them placing in the top eight. However, none of them were playing the game as they use to. They were beginning to play Magic. We all had a blast, visiting with friends and playing in drafts, etc. to early hours in the morning. However, my wife did tolerate the game, I think she was happy to see that we were not as heavily committed to a game.
When Jonathan got the call to play in the TMB, I told my wife to take him. She said, you should go, you know more about the game and he would enjoy it more with you.
It is not that my wife doesn't play card games, she does. Watch out if she ever gets into a poker game. She just doesn't have an interest in this card game or Magic. We have tried on many occassions. She also doesn't understand us wanting to help our friends or hold tournaments for other kids. I belive she feels there are better things to do with our recreational time. She may be right to some point, especially in the past when all that we did was play this game. Now, we only play when there is something important to obtain, like a "free" trip.
Also, Eric, our main leader, is now 15+. He sees the game in a different light. This has also change how we view this game. Also, he has develop other interest. Jonathan also plays Magic on the weekends. Tim does occassionally. None of us are playing Pokemon at home like we us to. My wife has stopped "complaining" about our gaming. We (my wife and I) are starting to spend more time together. Also other family matters have been taking our time away from the game.
Several of our friends had changes in their lives which also affected our playing. So, what does this mean?
It is just an evolution in our family. We had several great years, wife being very upset at times as well as being glad that we had some great vacations and other opportunities. Kids are getting older with other interest and the synergy has falling apart. I still like the game and enjoy it. However, I have to change to stay with my kids interest, which is Magic, basketball and now soccer.
This might sound off topic but it is not. Guys and gals, your spouse will understand, or should understand your compansion for this great game. I have talk to other spouses, both men and women, who are in the same place as I have been. All I can say is don't let the game take control of your life where it impacts your relationship with your spouse.
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