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BANGINBOX

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posted February 19, 2003 05:17 PM

Hey all,

after coming home late from another week of pokemon, my wife has finally had it. See, she has absolutly no interest in this game. She actually sees it as a threat to our relationship. She tends to think that I spend too much of my free time playing this game. she would rather me sit and watch T.V. with her. (boring [Bored]

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I have 3 children. 2 of which are strong competitors in the game. I on the other hand am a student of the game. I get the majority of my enjoyment from building them decks. I spend as much time as possible studying the cards to find new and exciting combos. anyone who knows me will verify that i rarely go mainsteam. building decks for a 9 and 7 year old that they could actually work without much thought is even more difficult. but when i see them winning with them..... man thats GREAT. doing this takes time.

I am also a collector. not so much for card value but so that i can have at least 1 of every card to study. (and proxy [Evil Smirk]

) this also takes some time to maintain.

Most of all this is a great way to spend quality time with my children. I tried to tell he that there could be much worse things, not only myself, but my kids could be doing. both my children are mathmatically inclined. doing math from one grade better than there current grade. All of this I feel we owe to the game. THANX!

how do all of your better halves, girl/boyfriends take you playing the game. How could I better convince my wife that what we are doing is ultimately a GOOD thing?

your thoughts will be shared with her,
thanx,
jimmy [NoNoNo]

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posted February 19, 2003 05:45 PM

Well, my gf has no interest in pokemon at all either. Card games just aren't her thing. She used to collect them back when it was popular; but the key phrase in that sentence is "back when it was popular". She likes to pick on me about it but she still loves me and doesn't make a big deal about any of my weird hobbies as long as she still gets lots of attention [Wink]

Then again we're about 10 years away from kids so I really can't comment on something quite that far but even still your wife shouldn't let a silly card game threaten you... I mean it's not like it's a cult or anything, just a harmless all-consuming obsession [Evil Smirk]

Ok, but really... Unless you're spending 4 hours daily sitting in a dark corner alone building decks she doesn't have alot to worry about and honestly I think it's great that you have a common interest with your kids and you're spending time with them doing something intelligent and constructive. I wouldn't attribute an entire GRADE LEVEL to the Pokemon TCG but I definitely agree that the game does wonders for your thinking skills and it may be possible that is the case. Either way good luck to you and if she still feels you're spending too much time on it then compromise a little. IE: you spend more time watching TV with her(How could you POSSIBLY find sitting with a beautiful woman watching TV boring? [Razz]

), and she gets off your case about it. You know what I mean?
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posted February 19, 2003 05:54 PM

Well, I live with a female roommate and she doesn't share in interest in "PokeMAN" (as she refers to it). However, on the flip side, I am not obsessed with serial killers (Michel Myers, Jason, etc.) as she is either. So, I will just stick with my "PokeMAN" interest, thank-you very much.

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posted February 19, 2003 05:56 PM

Hey Jimmy sorry to hear that your wife does not like Pokemon maybe you can take her to the tournaments that you and the Kids go so she can see how much fun it is for you and the kids.

Have you tried showing Her how to play the game? [Frown]

Does she watch the cartoons on TV? [Wink]

As for me my wife likes to watch the cartoons on Television kids like it as well, they know how to play but not in the competitive atmosphere like I do. She likes Opening the Packs that I buy and What she liked the best is the Money it generated for us (she gets to keep it). [Wink]

My suggestions to you is this:

1. Try to make time to spend with Her even if it is a Sunday (this is what I do to keep things in prospective). [Big Grin]

2. Get her involved with the game even if it is just opening packs or arranging the cards in order. [Evil Smirk]

If I think of something else I will let you know.

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BANGINBOX

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posted February 19, 2003 06:22 PM

drakeo....
and if she still feels you're spending too much time on it then compromise a little. IE: you spend more time watching TV with her(How could you POSSIBLY find sitting with a beautiful woman watching TV boring? [[Razz]]
You try watching the lifetime channel after working all day. [Bored]

LOL! thanx though.

Have you tried showing Her how to play the game?
Yes, and she beat me. darn baby roll!@#$% LOL

2. Get her involved with the game even if it is just opening packs or arranging the cards in order. [[Evil Smirk]]
if I let her do this, my cards may end up slowly disappearing. [Devilish]

I keep asking her to come with me to the tourney but we have a baby and he can become difficult after a few hours. In the meantime, I am trying to entice her competitive spirit.

keep it coming though.
jimmy [Evil Smirk]

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posted February 19, 2003 06:31 PM

I think the best way to handle women is to let them do their own thing for 23 hours out of the day. This is what they want. Then, for the other hour, give them total and complete attention.

I get made fun of constantly because I play this game (I'm 20, and a competitive baseball player. You wouldn't believe the ribbing I take for this)

But I tell people that I don't care. Because I don't. I don't need to prove that I'm "grown up". I'm 20 ... that's halfway to 40. If growing up means that I can't play this game, well, I don't want it.

I think we have a tendancy to take ourselves way too seriously.

Well, I know that doesn't really have to do with your question, But I don't think you should feel bad about yourself or what you're doing. I think it's great that you're involved with your kids ... would she be saying anything if you were coaching baseball? or soccer? it's the same thing. She needs to learn to respect this game. It's serious, to us, and to them. And it's important. Just as important as a baseball game to some people.

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posted February 19, 2003 06:36 PM

Heh, I got lucky. Mine's a very good player, well, he's a lot better than I'll ever be [bow]

. I suggest you show her how to play and all the stratagy it involves. She'll eventually accept that it is a good thing for the kids to be learning. Heh, but what do I know?

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ScythKing

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posted February 19, 2003 07:09 PM

quote:
Originally posted by BANGINBOX:
Hey all,after coming home late from another week of pokemon, my wife has finally had it.

I started to write something cute and then I had to back up. My first marriage went down the tubes in an obsession known as "computers". So I want to be serious about this - your life, wife and kids deserve it.
Find a book called "His Needs - Her Needs". Best damn book out there. In a nutshell this marriage counsellor with 40+ years of experience says that marriages fail because spouses are not meeting each others needs. I won't go down the list but #1 for men is "A buddy to do stuff with". This is where you wantr her to play with you and the kids in Pokemon (an admirable goal IMHO). A woman's #1 need - a conversation buddy. She wants someone to gab and blab with. This is why she really wants you to sit in front of the tube - she wants your undivided attention - which she will NOT get with any Pokemon around.
You will have to find that balance and get her to understand that she has to provide for your needs also which incidentally fulfills her "quality time" requirements with the kids. In return you will learn the art of conversation. On this subject - please refer to excellent chapter in "Mars/Venus" in which it is explained that men fail in conversation because we are problem solvers. Forget "solving" anything - your job is easy - listen and keep your big mouth shut.
Hopefully this rant & rave imparted some hard-earned wisdom...
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posted February 19, 2003 07:26 PM

Well BANGINTHEBOX, I could've written that post! My wife does not understand Pokemon, has no interest in nit and says "it's stupid." Neither does she have any interest in getting involved. After coming home from spending all day at SBZ, I get the guilt remarks like "I hate Saturdays" and "Saturdays used to be for family"

What saves me and what I enjoy most is spending the time with my two kids. They both want to play and also enjoy this time with their daddy.

I recently switched to a new location to play. My kids and I all really like it. They have a league and tournament every Saturday. So, as a compromise, I only do one or the other, not both (though we could stay and play all day!) [Smile]

so Pokemon does not take us away from her more then it has too.

So, I tread lightly when it comes to Pokemon. Yes, it does put a crimp in our relations sometimes, but we are working on it and hopefully ironing this out. It's not always [Love]

...that's what being married is about...working together.

So now it's time to leave the Pokegym and sit with her to watch Batchlorette (yuk). This will make her happy.

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posted February 19, 2003 07:59 PM

I'm right in there with ya, BANGINBOX.

I run 2 Battlezones (Wed. night and Sun. afternoon) and also Saturday tourneys twice a month.

That's pushing it, right there.

I also used to spend considerable time on AIM, Apprentice and message boards like this one.

Needless to say, that creates a bit of strain. When I returned home from SBZ this Saturday, I got "something has GOT to go! I hate feeling like Pokémon is taking over my life!"

Accordingly, I have not scheduled any tournaments for the near future. My 2 sons play (my 7 year old had a BLAST with yours at Niles!), but neither my wife nor my daughter enjoy it.

Cut back some. Trust me on this: you do not want to hurt your relationship over the game. She just wants to feel like she is (much) more important to you than the game.

Flowers and a surprise dinner out (with a babysitter for the kids), along with a reduced Pokémon schedule should put things back in order.

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posted February 19, 2003 08:44 PM

My g/f had collected cards up until about the TR set, when she stopped buying cards to move on towards more "teen" things...

Then we started going out and she found out I still liked the game. She brought me some of her cards, many of which I wouldn't expect a carefree collector to have, and I helped her make a MF-legal deck (throwing in some of my cards to give that feeling girls like when you both work together on something) and she started going to League with me.

Now, of course, she has yet to fully update herself with things like SUpporters and some of the new types (she calls [White Mana]

pokemon 'Light' types) and of course, the hugely popular Steelix/Donphan/Kingdra deck crushes her all the time (hehe, I'm the only one there who can destroy all of them!!)

So really, if you want someone to enjoy parts of what you enjoy, try putting some of your cards into their collection and making a deck.

If you want someone to understand your "obsession" try putting things related to it in simple enough terms that anyone can understand.

If you just want them to let you do as you want and be left alone, you could also just try telling them that you like doing these things and can only devote part of your life to them, after all, you don't come home every day to sleep with your buddy Cleffa or Oak, do you? (note: if you answer yes to this question, you are just plain weird )

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posted February 19, 2003 11:52 PM

My situation is a bit inside out of the usual I guess.

Married 18 years & for 15 disappointing a patient wife because I'm neither collector (where to put it all?) nor game player (the same play again and again, yawn). Used to tease my kids a bit about PKMN ('to be a blaster, pokey-dee-zater . o O'), until I saw how their binders made them talking pals everywhere we went. 'Hey, this is a game' I said, when I first paid attention to the cards...so bright, colorful, everyone different! Hmm. I found the card game demo on Wizards' site. I taught the kids & wife to play. Oh, and the collection still fits in a big athletic bag. Wife very happy.

Hmm. Can one so fortunate offer a suggestion? Maybe. I'm the driver here, interest waxes and wanes with the others. How to keep their interest, in my view:

1) I talk while I play. Never uninteresting to talk with Dad or Husband. More talking gets done w/ me over cards than TV (shh, I can't hear!). It is an EFFORT at times, I get pretty focused on the strategy, but adding the conversation...that is what they want (and me, too).

2) I curb my competitiveness. My pokeparent pal, his wife won't play with him anymore. A very bright guy, he just is Mr. Competition. You can find him among the top players in CA, in DCI. I find it better to coach them how to beat me mostly, when not talking with my family during play.

3) Make the family competitive decks with their favorite PKMN. When they get interested play a game or two with them, then later start revealing the combos.

4) Make it a date. Mrs. bulbasnore often gets asked to coffee across the street and to bring her deck. Again #1 & #3, but now its a quick date. Yes, people stop and ask us about it...we find that great fun!

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SteveP

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posted February 20, 2003 12:02 AM

Oh Good, I love playing Dr Phil.
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well bbox, you have a baby. there's the real conflict, not Pokemon. Good luck with that one. When my kids were infants, I had to rescue my wife on numerous occassions.

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posted February 20, 2003 12:14 AM

she likes the game and we play quite offen, I'm a bit more stragity wise and win usaly, however she gives me a run for my money and comes up with great ideas. Perhaps you are spending a bit too much time with a game, your wife neads attention, if she does not want to play the game with you, find a common insterest - put her first, then the kids, then yourself, then the game, true love is sacerfice.

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posted February 20, 2003 01:22 AM

Banginbox

Here is 2 cents from a spouse of a player, mother of a player and a player herself. Compromise and understanding are the answers. You say that you have a baby and assuming that your wife is a stay at home mom Pokémon is just an outlet for the real issue. When you are home with a baby/child all day you long for adult conversation and company. It helps you stay sane.

Since you and your older children enjoy playing and have that bonding/special time there is no reason to give that up. It is important to your children to have that time. Maybe one compromise could be that your wife takes your older children once a month (or so) to league. Since you have taught her how to play she could participate in a tournament with the children and experience the day with them. You in return get to spend that time on diaper duty. This way she gets out of the house and also gets to have some special mom kiddo time.

Since you do not want to spend your evening watching TV and your wife wants quality time with you how about agreeing to spend the time playing a game other then Pokémon. You could talk about your day and the kids.

The key to this is not to try and get her to like the game. Forcing someone to do something they do not want to do is not the answer. If your wife is only asking for you to spend 7 hours a week giving her your undivided attention that is not a lot to ask for.

Did you ever see that commercial where the wife is talking baby talk to her kid? Then the husband comes home and she talks baby talk to him? He then takes her out and they have time together and she can now conjugate. That is what it is like some days for stay at home parents.

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posted February 20, 2003 01:52 AM

I think SteveP has it right. The objection to pokemon is just a smokescreen. Take the baby with you to play!

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posted February 20, 2003 05:56 AM

quote:
Originally posted by SGHErika72:
So now it's time to leave the Pokegym and sit with her to watch Batchlorette (yuk). This will make her happy.

Oh, no, not you too!!

It's uncanny that this thread should surface just when we (wife and I) are having just this same "discussion"...

Thanks ScythKing for your insights - I'll be looking for those books 'cause I need a little (okay, a lot) help in those areas (I know about the hazards of computers and obsessive/compulsive behavior [Frown]

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posted February 20, 2003 08:20 AM

Geese, at least you have a kid or kids to use as an excuse, my kids are all under 4, so going out on Saturday just to play "some stupid game with a bunch of little kids" is not her idea of what I should be doing on Saturday afternoons. With the long break my league (Nov-late Jan) she hoped it was over, and now we are 3+ weeks in, and I am getting more greif than ever. And with conflicting scedueles, it has always been hard to spend time with her, especially with 3 kids now. Even over the last couple of weeks we have gone out, without the kids, and still she gripes. Though part of it is about money as well. 200+ dollars a set is a little much in her opinion, though her habbit cost a bit too. Luckily for us it isnt to big of a deal, I just have to listen to her nag, alot, about playing a "childrens game"

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posted February 20, 2003 08:36 AM

For me it has been a little up and down with my great wife. I have been playing for over three years now. The first year she was total against it. She hated that every Saturday I would go to the Game Keeper and play Pokemon for 8 hours. The Game Keeper had a long league time when the game first came out. It really made her mad when I was hired by the Game Keeper to be the gym leader and run the league, which that lasted a year and some. When Neo Geneses came out I was working on new decks for playing in tournaments at other stores during the off league season. I needed someone to play with and test out decks. I got her to agree to help me, but she hated playing with my decks, so she made her own. She loved to play water and all her decks revolve round that type. She would play a Fraligator or Blastois deck, and she also has a no-trainer deck that I hate to play against. For the next year we would pay together and she would even come to league to play in tournaments. But with two kids to watch it was hard for both of us to play at the same time, so she lovely dropped out of league so I could play more. The funniest time we had been in 2001 when we both went down to San Diego and played in the West Coast STS. She did really well in the tournament, and it was a lot of fun to have her there. This past year we both got our Professorships, but she has not been playing much as she used to. She will help me now and then to play test new decks, but more has been going on with school and work that I have not had a lot of time to spend on the game like I use to. That is until I graduate this May, then more time will come. She is still supportive of me playing the game, and I can run tournaments and go to league now and them, but I do have to do me home work first. [Wink]

We both know that my schooling needs to come first this last semester so I can finish getting my Economic degree. All and all I am very lucky and thankful that I have such a wonderful wife as I do.

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posted February 20, 2003 08:54 AM

*sigh*

I guess I'm one of the "lucky" ones...my spouse and I have pretty much always been able to pursue separate interests, without the other feeling threatened by the fact that OMG! we're not joined at the hip 24/7! [Eek!]

. He tolerates the game; makes fun of it/me sometimes ("poke Mom"..*poke*), doesn't say much about the Pikachu all over the house, and will keep an eye out for new and different Poké-stuff when out shopping...I'm a lucky girl [Smile]

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There are things he enjoys (military history, airshows, museums, the Charger games, etc.) that would bore me to tears; but rather than say that he can't go to whatever since I don't like it...I kiss him and the boys goodbye, and they enjoy a "boys day out" doing all the manly stuff while mom gets to go see a girl movie, shop, or just relax at home ALONE.

Please note my emphasis on the last word there...that may be the source of conflict, especially those of you with infants or toddlers. Yes, you might be taking the older kids with you...but speaking from experience, it's exhausting being a SAHM with an infant/toddler. Mom NEEDS some alone time, just for her own mental health. You might not be able to play along with the kids (only coach, if that) if you bring your youngest with you...but I think the compromise might be worth it occasionally.

Now if mom is being left at home constantly WITH the kids while dad goes out alone...then yes, there is a problem there. Turnabout is fair play; if mom has an interest/hobby then she should have the time to pursue it, too.

The only time the game has caused a conflict here was when I was invited to judge at Worlds...which happened to coincide with Comic-Con International down here. Since my going to Worlds would have wrecked going to the 'Con for my husband (both kids just aren't up to the all-day, every day pace of the 'Con yet), I begged my mom to come down and stay with the kids that weekend so I could go to Worlds and he could go to the 'Con. Luckily, grandma was willing and able to do this, so we went to preview night of the 'Con with the kids (as planned) and he and I went to the first day of the 'Con together as usual. My mom stayed with the kids while he went to the 'Con Friday and Saturday, and stayed with our youngest when he took #1 son to Kids Day at the 'Con on Sunday...while mom had a weekend on her own [Love]

at Worlds.

Since I've been taking both boys (*cough* when not on restriction *cough* [Roll Eyes]

) to League, Wednesdays have become dad's night to do whatever...go out to a movie with his cousin, watch the action DVDs he can't really watch with the kids around, or just have some peace and quiet, again.

Anyway, JMHO and experience...your mileage may vary [Wink]

. Good luck to all of you in finding a balance that works for all involved [Smile]

'Mom

PS: Dark Llama, since marriage relationships (with children involved) are what's being discussed, I don't quite think "!@#$% off" is an option here [NoNoNo]

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posted February 20, 2003 08:56 AM

My wife think Pokemon is for kids only and want me to have a more adult like hobby. She also complain I spend too much money on Pokemon item (cards, doll, collectable stuff).

She do not complain I spend too much time. It is because I already foresee this issue and spend enough time with her before she complain. I go to play Pokemon about 2 times per month. If this Saturday play Pokemon card, next Saturday will be with her. I know this is her maximum.

I don't think Pokemon will be more important than my wife. So I have to make her happy first. If she is happy, we can bargin on how much time I can spend on Pokemon and other hobby (e.g. Fishing). So, BANGINBOX should talk to his wife to determine how much time he can spend on Pokemon (2 night per week?)

Spouse will be with us for life. We have to make her happy. Than they will be easy on us.

PS: my wife control my finance and only give me $110 cdn (~$73 US) allowance per month. I can spend this whatever I want and my wife will not say a word on this. This solve the "spending too much" problem. This also good on me that I will not spend too much money.

[ February 20, 2003, 09:11 AM: Message edited by: DOMCGI ]

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posted February 20, 2003 09:05 AM

Well, I don't have an IRL girlfriend yet. I'm working on getting a long-distance relationship to be a regular one. (We're making plans for her to come up to PA for the summer.)

Now, I did something that half of you (well, more than half) would consider crazy, and those of you who don't think it is crazy will truly understand where I'm coming from.

When I was searching for a soulmate, it was not enough that they had to tolerate my being into Pokemon. They had to like Pokemon (mainly, and most importantly Mewtwo) as much as I do. That was a PREREQUISITE of the start of the relationship.

No, my g/f doesn't play the game. She just collects all of the Mewtwo cards she can find (her and me both). Hopefully I can get her to pick up the game, but I foresee no problems with any TCG activities, or involving her in them, etc.

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posted February 20, 2003 09:21 AM

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Originally posted by DOMCGI:
My wife think Pokemon is for kids only and what me to have a more adult like hobby. She also complain I spend too much money on Pokemon item (cards, doll, collectable stuff).

I have a more adult hobby, and trust me it doesnt help. I collect also Star Wars stuff. I have ton of figures, collector items, and even my own set of Stormtrooper armor which is really cool looking. If it is not one hobby it is another one that they dont like. But I can tell you when kids see you in Stormtrooper armor in aw it is well worth it.

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posted February 20, 2003 01:52 PM

Some great advice by all. I am married with 3 kids (17,11,3). I have been playing since 1999 and currently run a BattleZone League in NC. My wife generally is really great about it since twice a month I can have League on Sat and Tournament on Sun. But she at times does get tired of the time I put into it and may complain. She and my oldest son used to play but my oldest son now plays computer games and she stopped after losing most of her games and eventually lost interest. Of course, she loves to open the packs to see what we got. My experience has been to balance things out. I try to make sure to spend time with her and we go out together once a week and do something (like a date night). It doesn't always work because of schedules but I bet your wife would love it if it happens twice a month. As mentioned above if you can't do that just take time out to talk to her (even while watching TV with her). It means a lot and isn't that the reason we all got married...to have a partner for life.

I think it is very important to continue playing with your two kids because of the quality time along with teaching them good sportsmanship, strategy, reading, comprehension, etc... This has really built a strong bond between my 11 year and I because we have been playing together since 1999. I really love the game and it is the only hobby I do because of time constraints. It gives me an outlet from the stress of work and everything else where I can play and forget about things for awhile.

We also try to schedule vacations around major events (i.e. STS, Challenges, etc) and make plans
to do something while we are visiting a city for an event. Last year we went to NYC and Pokemon Center while attending the East Coast Stadium Challenge.

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posted February 20, 2003 02:14 PM

LOL.Some of you guys are too funny.Also,some great advice has been given.

Now,are you asking about my ex-wife or my current gf...the answer will be different. [ROFL]

My gf is awesome.She doesn`t mind too much that I spend time with all the kids at BZ,not to mention the Brooks` and the rest of the NoVa friends when we get together for a tourney or playtesting.

Sometimes,she`ll let me know that I`m spending too much time or money on/with Pokemon,but she already knows the rule that I set before we got together which is I made it abundantly clear that there are some things that I will do and I don`t want to hear a word about it.I have my things that I like to do and I will] do them.If anyone doesn`t like it,then they can leave.

Now,that may sound a little harsh,but I feel that if you can`t be happy,then how can you make someone else happy?That doesn`t mean I don`t do things for/with her.Of course I do!I love going shopping with her and doing that blucky "couple stuff" ( [Big Grin]

).We go places,watch stuff,etc.I just put my foot down on some things I like to do and make it a two sided relationship(where we do things that she wants and some things I want).That way we can both be happy.I hate hearing about relationships where the lady wants everything her way and the guy can`t do diddly squat.Those types I give the boot to!

What`s even better though,is she now plays D&D with my group and she loves it!How`s that one for ya? [Cool]

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