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You make it sound like being homeschooled is a definite advantage, when in fact it's not, owing to the fact that the peer pressure and so on of high school teaches you earlier on how to handle it.

Spoilers: It never goes away in life. Ever.
 
Azure Kite said:
Something people forget so much about me.....I'M HOMESCHOOLED. I've NEVER been in a public school, and until college, it will probably be that way.
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I would supose you don't have the same experiences as us, then.
Would you say home-schooling is better? I knew someone who wetn a bit odd (chicken tea parties, don't ask) and became a social outcast because he spent grades 4 and 5 in home-schooling, and he had no idea how to be social.
 
it's not like 'school' is the only place kids are 'socialized': if one participates in church/temple, scouts, sports, music lessons etc. they are still interacting with a peer group/being 'socialized'...

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Marril said:
You make it sound like being homeschooled is a definite advantage, when in fact it's not, owing to the fact that the peer pressure and so on of high school teaches you earlier on how to handle it.

Spoilers: It never goes away in life. Ever.
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It seems like an advantage to me. Although I probably wouldn't be at all social no matter what. From the sound of it, school would just give me more reasons to hate people.
 
Would you rather your first "I hate people" experience be in school early on, or in the job you're going to have to inevitably get? You're going to run into the exact same social politicking, just with adults instead of teenagars. In essence you're only being sheltered now so you can feel the pain more sharply later. Nobody's asking anyone to have a social life in the sense that they should be going out partying a lot. I'm only saying that being forced to deal with people you don't like by way of public schooling gives you the ability to handle it later in life, instead of having to learn later on how to deal with them. Also this:

if one participates in church/temple, scouts, sports, music lessons etc. they are still interacting with a peer group/being 'socialized'...
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Given the average user on this site, I'd say the most "socialization" they get would be at a league full of like-minded Pokémon players. Frankly, this isn't anything approaching adequate social diversity for it to teach the kid anything about dealing with people in general.
 
i've asked myself the question at hand. the answer i've come up with: don't worry about it
 
Marril said:
You're going to run into the exact same social politicking, just with adults instead of teenagars. I would say the most "socialization" they get would be at a league full of like-minded Pokémon players. Frankly, this isn't anything approaching adequate social diversity for it to teach the kid anything about dealing with people in general.
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That is unless you get the right job. I work for Dell Computers Inc. My co-workers and I are all "like minded nerds." (noted by the fact this post was written using the DS Browser) Then again, I might not be the best example of dealing with life's problems as noted in my last post in this thread.
 
Marril, you say that because you don't understand. People draw their conclusions about homeschooling from what they hear, or the few homeschoolers they know. I don't like the more extreme homeschoolers that do stuff like the people here. Thats just plain weird. A lot of peole I talk to think homeschooling is so cool, and they're so jealous of me. In some ways it is better, but it doesn't mean your anti social, and it doesn't mean you never solcialize with anyone. We still take classes outside of our home, even though not public school. Through events I do, I have plently of time to socialize with kids who are in public school. It doesn't mean if something happened that made me have to go to a public high school, I wouldn't survive. It would take some adjustments, but I wouldn't die.
 
Marril said:
Would you rather your first "I hate people" experience be in school early on, or in the job you're going to have to inevitably get? You're going to run into the exact same social politicking, just with adults instead of teenagars. In essence you're only being sheltered now so you can feel the pain more sharply later. Nobody's asking anyone to have a social life in the sense that they should be going out partying a lot. I'm only saying that being forced to deal with people you don't like by way of public schooling gives you the ability to handle it later in life, instead of having to learn later on how to deal with them.
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Wow, so no one ever meets people outside of school and jobs?:nonono: I just don't want to be stuck dealing with social politicking, as you put it, every day.
 
Misanthropy is the only thing keeping me from breaking the law by way of becoming a serial killer.

Some of the people I meet on the job don't even dress themselves in the morning, I swear. It makes me weep for humanity.
 
Marril, people aren't perfect so it's only natural that jobs aren't either. That said it's not anything close to impossible to find ones that are better for you than others. What you do is important, but WHO you do it with is probably more so. If you work with folks you don't particularly like then keep your eyes open for other opportunities. With patience and effort they will come.
 
You think everything is going well... and then... the day comes... you say something... but you didnt mean to because you were upset with other things.. and you know she is upset... and you try and talk to her but she is too upset to talk to you.. what are you supposed to do... you cant call her or text her and she is offline.. and you know every second away from her is hurting your chances of staying with the love of your life. Your friends try and help but no matter what they say.. you know that your time is running out.. you have to save your love. It can't end like this! You won't let it end like this! You MUST get her back!!!!!! at all costs.. but you know she doesnt forgive and forget easily..... you, my friend, are about to face the biggest challenge of your young life... saving the love of your life!

Will you succeed? Will you lose her forever?

Time will tell that story.
 
MadHatter said:
You think everything is going well... and then... the day comes... you say something... but you didnt mean to because you were upset with other things.. and you know she is upset... and you try and talk to her but she is too upset to talk to you.. what are you supposed to do... you cant call her or text her and she is offline.. and you know every second away from her is hurting your chances of staying with the love of your life. Your friends try and help but no matter what they say.. you know that your time is running out.. you have to save your love. It can't end like this! You won't let it end like this! You MUST get her back!!!!!! at all costs.. but you know she doesnt forgive and forget easily..... you, my friend, are about to face the biggest challenge of your young life... saving the love of your life!

Will you succeed? Will you lose her forever?

Time will tell that story.
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I know what you are going through must hurt a lot. Having gone through my own share of personal problems (a friend dying in a freak accident) and I can say that you move on (with TIME). Reading what your typing gives me am idea about what the problem may be. It seems that you are being really clingy, and (this will sound harsh) the fact that you are so obsessed with her is probably a big part of what is driving her away. You could try taking a break from each other. Remember, if she really is the love of your life your relationship will be able to survive some tough times.
 
There are other fish in the sea.
You might not like any of them for a while but another one (that you will like) will definetly come along.

Dont spend too much time feeling bad, trust me, Ive been there and life goes on (but yah it is hard to let go sometimes).

Keep your chin up!
 
I’m reminded of this girl I met back when I was single. She was nice enough but I really wasn’t interested in her at all. We had a few mutual acquaintances so we saw each other in a group setting a few times. Mostly being nice, I talked to her on the phone a few times as well. When she hinted that she would like to go on a date I told her as nicely as I could that I didn’t want to. The result was that she got desperate. She started calling me literally every 5 minutes. I had to turn off my phone ringer and answering machine in order to do something as simple as watch television. Boy was I glad that she didn’t know where I lived so that she couldn’t come over and pester me too!

Anyway, even more so than most guys, women can sense when a guy is desperate. It’s a huge turn off. Hatter the very best thing to do is to stay calm. Get yourself centered or focused or back on track … however you like to think about it. Seriously, don’t try to get in touch until you feel calm and confident.

It’s ironic but one of the best ways to find a stable long term relationship is to be comfortable with the idea of not having one at all. You have to be OK with yourself before you can really bring something meaningful to the table in a healthy relationship. Not being desperate to have that special someone or that relationship actually means that you have the self confidence to really make it work.

Best of luck to you man!
 
PuRpLe said:
There are other fish in the sea.
You might not like any of them for a while but another one (that you will like) will definetly come along.

Dont spend too much time feeling bad, trust me, Ive been there and life goes on (but yah it is hard to let go sometimes).

Keep your chin up!
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Have you ever had a "love life"? Unfortunately, its not going to be that easy to just say that there will be more, and you just have to let go. Maybe with other things, but not with females. The attractive ones, that is.

MadHatter said:
You think everything is going well... and then... the day comes... you say something... but you didnt mean to because you were upset with other things.. and you know she is upset... and you try and talk to her but she is too upset to talk to you.. what are you supposed to do... you cant call her or text her and she is offline.. and you know every second away from her is hurting your chances of staying with the love of your life. Your friends try and help but no matter what they say.. you know that your time is running out.. you have to save your love. It can't end like this! You won't let it end like this! You MUST get her back!!!!!! at all costs.. but you know she doesnt forgive and forget easily..... you, my friend, are about to face the biggest challenge of your young life... saving the love of your life!

Will you succeed? Will you lose her forever?

Time will tell that story.
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Indeed time will tell. And you said that pretty poeticly too. Have you told her you love her? Have you put all the cards out on the table yet? This is obviously torturing you every second you think about her and you know whats wrong. This has to end sometime. I'd hate for you to spend so much time thinking about her, just for your heart to be broken. Although I'm afraid you've already spent enough time thinking about her....Eventually, you need to lay out all the cards, and let her decide whether she wants you or not. I'm not saying now, just when the time is right.
 
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