9 year old boy created a book on "How to Talk to Girls"
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chriscobi634
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I think what he means by this is what the kid was talking about, don't look desperate. Give them their space, and at first only look at them as a potential friend not a girlfriend. The more affection you show the more they'll notice this and take advantage of the situation. I have a close friend that is a girl and she is 19, I'm 23. We have the coolest conversations because we'll speak about anything, I mean anything. She has a boyfriend and she'll talk to me about her sexual experiences with her B/F, we are that confident with each other. I know her B/F as well and he is a really cool guy too.
It always helps to have someone like that, and I'm not talking about your sister or mom. A girl who you can about your relationships with other girls. The advice she has told me is that girls around that age (18-25ish) like to play games with guys. Like to test their limits. So we as guys kind of have to do the same back. Why do you think the famous saying "Nice guys finish last" exists. It's so true, I used to be the guy who would always be really nice to girls and would always get turned down. Then I would see them with other guys that treated those girls like a friend, gave them crap every once in a while. But didn't cross the line, which is a very fine one. Now I approach girls in a more friendly way, not showing much affection. It's worked very well.
I'll never forget this line from the Notebook by Noah (Ryan Gosling): "Well that's what we do, we fight... You tell me when I am being an arrogant *** ** * ***** and I tell you when you are a pain in the ***. Which you are, 99% of the time. I'm not afraid to hurt your feelings. You have like a 2 second rebound rate, then you're back doing the next pain-in-the-*** thing." Excuse the swearing, I censored them out. But notice how he sayings he is not afraid to hurt her feelings. We'll I add my own line to it. "I'm not afraid to hurt your feelings, but I also want to be that one there when your feelings are hurt, and you need someone there for you". So you can't be afraid to express your true feelings when speaking with a girl but also don't cross the line. If you do cross the line and **** them off or something then you better make up for it fast.
There is also another line you can't cross, and that is the cocky or arrogant line. Girls like a confident guy but they hate an arrogant "player". They'll turn you down faster if you show arrogance then if you don't show any confidence.
The kid for being 9 years old kind of knows what he is talking about. I haven't bought the book or anything but just the way he presented himself on that video shows the savvy he has and how is much more mature then his peers for his age.
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amphy#1
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This is sooo true. I've been in many situations like this, where I am close friends with a girl and they have a boyfriend. Even though I like being friends with them, it plays with my emotions a bit. :frown: I hope one day I can find one without a boyfriend, or mabee steal her from her boyfriend. :lol:
DJGigabyte
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I can see this slowly turning into a dating thread. Haha.
I hope this thread gets closed or forgotten by then. The book that inspired this thread is a book on how to talk to girls not to get a date or some 'action'. I choose to remain single, I'm sorry but the world is a cesspool of corruption, disease and infidelity; there never was nor will there ever be honor, trust or respect with out ulterior-selfish motives. We like to think we can exist without selfish-ulterior motives and have the ability to exist altruistically or that we can live for somebody else out of 'love' and its inherent, I'm sorry there isn't and well I'm not really sorry because I am void of sentimental feelings. People that try to seek to live for another person I find to be somewhat weak; you must live for your self and use and abuse if needed others around you which we all do everyday and its the only way to get any where in this life.
DJGigabyte
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Sorry to disagree Will, but love is out there.
Its a fantastic thing and if you find it then your incredibly lucky.
If you can hold onto it your even luckier.
You might think you're void of sentiment but if you meet the right person you might feel different.
I wasn't suggesting that people should use this thread to look for dates. I mearly said I could see it eventually turning out that way.
And I never mentioned "getting some action" thats a really inappropriate topic anyway and something you shouldn't intend to do.
Its a fantastic thing and if you find it then your incredibly lucky.
If you can hold onto it your even luckier.
You might think you're void of sentiment but if you meet the right person you might feel different.
I wasn't suggesting that people should use this thread to look for dates. I mearly said I could see it eventually turning out that way.
And I never mentioned "getting some action" thats a really inappropriate topic anyway and something you shouldn't intend to do.
You watch too many bad movies, you sound like Agent Smith from Matrix :lol:
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Having a girl-friend (why has the english language no word for a girl thats your friend but not your girlfriend? thats sooo annoying xD) that gives you advice on anything defintly helps xD
I've got a friend (see ? again ! i'm talking about a girl thats my friend but not my girlfriend, why is there no word for this :nonono
and we talk about anything cause we trust each other and have no issues talking about "privat stuff". This is great because you can talk about stuff you normaly wouldnt dare to ask a girl / you wouldnt like to ask anyone. But we know each other good enough so its no problem, shes ussually happy to give me advice , though she makes fun of me being so curious / why i'm so curious :tongue:
chriscobi634
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It's sad you have to think/live this way. I pity you. Hopefully you'll change your thinking ways in the near future and try to find love because it's one of the greatest feelings in the world.
My apologies DJ I was not implying that you were implying this will turn into a get some 'action' thread which I agree will be uncalled for on a friendly-family forum site such as this, just to make clear that the book this kid wrote I'm quite sure isn't one about finding a girlfriend or a date which seems to be the underlining spin this thread has been unraveling. I understand the natural tendency to find affection/intimacy/love and the difficulty to fight it while remaining sane; I have seen too many reasonable people loose reason because of 'love'. It frightens me it's like some sort of contagious second-hand smoke that leaves us choking and sadly choking for more and before we realize it we are truly no longer ourselves but some sort of automaton or puppet being pushed and pulled by others.
toxictaipan
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Well, that's the thing. If the person is too much effort, they aren't the right person for you. The person you love isn't supposed to cause such terrible things in your life, but counteract them.
Having a girl-friend (why has the english language no word for a girl thats your friend but not your girlfriend? thats sooo annoying xD) that gives you advice on anything defintly helps xD
I've got a friend (see ? again ! i'm talking about a girl thats my friend but not my girlfriend, why is there no word for this :nonono
But we know each other good enough so its no problem, shes ussually happy to give me advice , though she makes fun of me being so curious / why i'm so curious :tongue:
Girl friend=Your Female friend. Girl is an adjective that modifies "Friend". What friend? Your friend that is a girl.
Girlfriend=Female companion. Notice there is no space in this word. That's because girl doesn't modify the word, but is part of it.
The two sentences: "Is that your girlfriend?" and "Is that your female companion?" are equal.
I know it's a strong word to use in an example like that, but I couldn't find a better word than "companion".
Professor_Chris
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Companion and friend are synonymous.
Which means by your definition:
girlfriend => female companion => female friend => girl friend.
which is correct. They are the same. Girl friend is/was most likely the more correct spelling, but people spelled it as one word often enough that they probably just added it to the dictionary because of frequent usage.
Which means, they're not necessarily different, but could be and neither way is technically wrong. So, even if you put the space in, most people would probably assume said person has boy friend/girl friend status.
Not that this is really an issue, you can generally get the point that your friend happens to be female across if you absolutely need others to know her gender without saying girl friend. Besides, do you call your male friends boy friends?
Also, I'm glad it was said at the end of the first page so that I didn't have to say something all snarky like:
"Well, you could always pretend that they're human also."
dragon2pol
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yayyyyyyyyyyy lolz im 23 & got into a relationship with my girl back in the 6th grade now we are married so it dont work out bad all the time it just depends on who it is & if there right for you XP
DJGigabyte
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Congratulations =)))
toxictaipan
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I find it funny that we've never had a thread on, "How to Talk to Boys". That kind of tells you something, doesn't it?
Oh_my_God! That must mean they know our secrets!!! Wait a minute.... There AREN'T any secrets!!
Teenage girls like to play mind game with boys. They WANT us to think there are secrets, they WANT us to think it's hard to talk to them, they WANT us to be confused as possible.
If you need a book that teaches you how to talk to girls, screw this kid, and go get a book on reverse psychology.
Oh_my_God! That must mean they know our secrets!!! Wait a minute.... There AREN'T any secrets!!
Teenage girls like to play mind game with boys. They WANT us to think there are secrets, they WANT us to think it's hard to talk to them, they WANT us to be confused as possible.
If you need a book that teaches you how to talk to girls, screw this kid, and go get a book on reverse psychology.
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DJGigabyte
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Maybe most of the gym are boys (a guess, I have no idea what the ratio is).
Or maybe girls are particularly bothered about talking to boys lol. They generally like the boy to talk to them first.
amphy#1
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I can tell you right now that most guys don't like it when a girl talks to them. It makes them sound desprate. The ones that do this don't have confidence in themselves or their abilities. Girls have sooo many ways to get boys to talk to them with out looking stupid, so they let us look like the fools. I'm a fool, a fool for love baby. :biggrin:
DJGigabyte
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And even when we know theie ways we fall for them everytime.