I don't have a problem with people asking me for a concession. However, I DO have a problem with people "getting all huffy" when I refuse.
A couple years ago at US Nationals, I was lucky enough to win an invitation to Worlds in the Professor Cup. The next day during Nats, twice I was asked to concede because I already had an invitation to Worlds. Twice, I refused, only to see my opponents bitterly "storm" away, murmuring disgust at my "uncharitable disregard" for their desire to get a trip. Then, after making the Top16 cut, I wasn't too surprised when those same two individuals cheered when I lost, as though somehow my earlier refusal to concede had somehow made me "unworthy" to be in the playoffs.
Asking for a concession is OK with me, but don't expect it as an entitlement, nor "go ballistic" when I refuse.
A couple years ago at US Nationals, I was lucky enough to win an invitation to Worlds in the Professor Cup. The next day during Nats, twice I was asked to concede because I already had an invitation to Worlds. Twice, I refused, only to see my opponents bitterly "storm" away, murmuring disgust at my "uncharitable disregard" for their desire to get a trip. Then, after making the Top16 cut, I wasn't too surprised when those same two individuals cheered when I lost, as though somehow my earlier refusal to concede had somehow made me "unworthy" to be in the playoffs.
Asking for a concession is OK with me, but don't expect it as an entitlement, nor "go ballistic" when I refuse.