Watchin' from the sidelines. A suspended player's Report/confession

[rpatt]

[I am pleased that this young man has such blindly loyal and supportive people around him. [/QUOTE]

I have stayed out of this thread untill now because while I know some of the people involved here vaguely, from league, and from tournaments, I really didn't think I had much to add.

Personally I have planned to be supportive towards Kayhon. I know from my own experience that I would not be were I am today, if people in my life had not been willing to give me seconds, thirds and perhaps more chances. I do not consider myself to be "blindly loyal", and object to the charecterization. My own experience is that people are neither all good or all bad, but the thing that makes us all potentially great is that we can learn from our mistakes.

Kayhon has been villified quite abit here. And deserverdly so. The cheating a friend was bad enough, abusing the trust and stealing from people as nice as BDS and the Clantons is downright dispicable.

On the other hand I have observed Kayhon to be a pretty generous person in his own right. Willing to give of his time, share cards, teach my son to build decks. So yes I was genuinely shocked to hear about this. It doesn't jive with the picture I had of Kayhon in my mind. But he is like 18 years old. All of you adults that are condeming the actions of an 18 year old kid, how together were you at that age? I was pretty screwed up. I certainly wasn't spending my time at the local card store helping younger kids to learn to play a TCG.

So am I worried about the influence that Kayhon may have on my son. No. We have discussed this and I have tried to use it as a teaching opertunity. Kayhon is not suppose to be teaching my son values anyway. That is my job as his parent. Yeah I will probably have my guard up a little around Kayhon. But if he is sincere in trying to learn from this and become a better person for it I respect that . I have hit more that one bottom in my own life, and because of that I believe that everyone, no matter how far down we fall, has the potential turn it around and rise above.

 

[PokePop]

A little more time. Some interesting last posts, so we'll see how it goes.

 

[master of puppets]

Seriously, you took the time to post this, but didn't bother to read his confession?

He IS a real cheater. He IS a real thief. He confessed being both. In creating this thread with his first post, he confirms EXACTLY what you imagine he has not. Your sentiment, while sweetly supportive, is misplaced and completely without foundation.

Perhaps you should read the entire post; or limit your support for past good deeds to those deeds while not trying to excuse the inexcusable.

I am pleased that this young man has such blindly loyal and supportive people around him. Perhaps with your help and continued support he can come to see that his actions were wrong and stop rationalizing his bad behavior. Perhaps he can come to a place where he has no excuses, only contrition.

If it weren't so dangerous now, I would recommend a stint in the military for this young man. He would return from a hitch in the US Army a man with a core that is worthy of respect.

Q.F.T., PokeDad, you know what you're talking about.
I find it ridiculous that the majority of the posts in this thread are "you worked it off and admitted to it, you're such a great guy!".
It this is how thieves and cheats are treated, with praise, I might have to start stealing and cheating at tournaments.

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Oh, and DarkJakes post was not too personal.
I think that the Pokegym.net is becoming a little too liberal and worried about offending people with simple things such as that...
Much too leberal, rather.

 

[Articjedi]

Since when did politics come to deal with the way you socialize with someone? Keeping from being offensive doesn't mean that they're somehow liberal =\

I still stand by my previous statements. Although I accept his apology, it by no means changes the way I'm going to deal with him in the future. He isn't going to fix my trust with any amount of "I'm sorry." Talk is talk. The only way Kayhon is going to earn any real trust from anyone is going to be through his actions in the future, it's not a few words from a topic. Even though this is the first step, I'm not praising him for admitting it and apologizing. If he were 6 years old and didn't know any better, you might be giving him some leniency. We're talking about a 19 year old, practically an adult and definitely able to determine right from wrong. The last thing I'm giving him is the benefit of the doubt, which what a lot of people on this topic are leaning toward.

 

[PokePop]

And.... close scene.